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What Is Wisdom?

This month, you are going to experience the favor of Almighty God!  We are examining what the favor of God is because you will experience His outpouring of blessings! Let’s dig into the meat of the Word of God to dissect exactly what His favor is. Are you ready? I hope so, because the “I AM” is at work, and He has chosen you for such a time as this!

"And he went down with them, and came to Nazareth, and was subject unto them:  but his mother kept all these sayings in her heart. And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man."
Luke 2:51-52
Jesus increased in wisdom, stature, and favor as He grew. As you and I grow in Christ, we mature, too.  Favor is the divine current that takes you from your present season to your future destiny. You and I need God’s favor to lay hold of our destiny in Christ. We need the favor of God to take us to our “Promised Land”!

One of the characteristics of Jesus’ growth we should model in order to manifest favor with God a…

Challenge Yourself!

Life’s opportunities and challenges never end.  There will always be something new to learn, to try, and to experience. There will be new people to meet, new places to go, new insights to gain, and to share.

One of the best ways to share God’s goodness is by living in a manner that inspires others. As parents, this is one of our primary ways to nurture our children as they grow. Every parent has the opportunity to nurture and develop seeds of potential in their child. There are many ways to inspire others—and another powerful way to inspire others is by challenging yourself with continual growth!
God designed you to be a continual learner.  He also designed you to continue to explore His creation and to push yourself outside of your boundaries. Although this might make you uncomfortable in the beginning, it broadens your path toward new opportunities—and gives others the courage to do the same.

You should strive to be different today than you were yesterday – and different tomorrow tha…

Are you making the right connections?

Recent research by psychologists investigating the roots of happiness found that the happiest people are those who are closely connected with family and friends. They spend the least amount of time alone, and pursue both ‘personal growth and intimacy.’ They are people who fill their lives with meaningful, absorbing activities that keep them from focusing on the negative, or worrying too much. They live life ‘in the flow’ while doing what they are best at, gifted in – capitalizing on what psychologists call their ‘signature strengths.’
In other words — making ‘right connections’ with the world around you is vital to experiencing happiness! ‘Right connections’ is where we find comfort and safety – and a nurturing space that allow us to develop as a whole person…maturing inwardly as we develop outwardly.  Without proper connection to others, our physical, emotional and cognitive powers weaken significantly. The kind of connection we long for is the kind that creates a sense of belongin…

What is 'The Good Life?'

Americans are on the hunt for a fulfilling life, searching for everything and anything in order to satisfy unfulfilled desires, misplaced shame, and an uneasy conscience. Consumer experts and skilled inventors televise their promises of a happy life in forty-second intervals, capturing anxious hearts with cheap psychological tactics and childish gimmicks in a blink of an eye. The reciprocating truth dauntingly catches backup: we search for life in all the wrong places.
God created us in such a way that a happy, satisfied, content life is only found in Jesus.  In a clear and heart-searching tone, Proverbs pointedly speaks to twenty-first century Christians.
My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commandments,
for length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you. (Prov. 3:1-2 ESV) In one sense, any person who lives on earth as a Christian has “the good life.” In another, it is true that living a good life will be an ongoing choice. Another way to s…

Key 9: Find People Who Share Your Passion | Nine Keys to Healthy Relationships

While it is impossible to survive without partnership, it’s also impossible to partner with people who do not share the same intensity and the same objectives you have. Both are needed.  You need passion and an intensity of focus that fuels that relationship. Do we see the same way? Can we get there together?
You need intensity because it focuses on how much you want it. Intensity focuses on desire. And while the objective is the focus on the specificity of what you want, you need intensity because intensity is desire. So your objective and your intensity of desire have to be the same. That takes us back to compromise. What is it you want? How much? You can rate how much you desire it. For example, you say you want God in your marriage. That’s the objective. But do you really? Does the intensity of your desire for God mean you are willing to pray together for ten minutes a day? Are you willing to go and do a Bible study together? Are you willing to go to church together?
Intensity ha…

Key 8: Keep The Big Picture In Mind When You Experience Trials In Your Relationship | Nine Keys to Healthy Relationships

All relationships go through trials.  You must constantly ask yourself about motives and the bigger picture when you experience trials and testings in your relationships.  All relationships hit speed bumps, occasionally some of them hit mountains. Some relationships just have train wrecks.

For instance, if you’re going to stay planted in the church God called you to, there will be a testing at some point. There will be a time when the enemy challenges you, and somebody in the church is going to drive you crazy. Just because one member gets on your nerves or says something cruel doesn’t mean the other members are to blame. Nothing should drive you away from where God places you.
Your marriage is going to go through trials.  You’ll face countless trials on your job. Are you going to forfeit the place where God has planted you just because you are going through a difficult time? God is using the struggles to work out the junk in your life. God is using difficulties with other people to …

Key 7: Form Relationships That Fit | Nine Keys To Healthy Relationships

In order to develop healthy relationships, we have to recognize what right partnerships look like.  Your dream needs the association of the right people, the right significant others. Every dream you have needs teamwork in order for it to be birthed into reality. You will never be what God has called you to be without the right people in your life. You form healthy relationships or partnerships based on three factors: Diversity, common direction, and deliberate destination. Diversity Relationships are most productive when we interact with people who complement us without duplicating us.  In other words, you need to cross-pollinate. You need to get with people who are not exactly like you. You need to be exposed to different things in life in order to be equipped for the assignment of God on your life. You need to get into conversations that intimidate you. You need to go into brand-new situations about which you have no understanding and cross-pollinate and learn from them. You canno…

Key 6: Don't Revisit A Relationship You've Decided To End | Nine Keys to Healthy Relationships

One big relationship problem for some people is they keep going back to what God has finished. Don’t revisit what God has decided to end. When it is over, it is over. The biblical principle is: “No one, having put his hand to the plow, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God” (Luke 9:62). Don’t revisit what God has finished. It’s over.

It brings us back to James 1:8: “For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.” If we keep trying to hold on to what God is through with and simultaneously grab what God is opening to us, we are unstable and go nowhere. When I keep revisiting my past and trying to drag my past into my future, God says, “You can’t have that.” So you have to let go of the old so you can embrace the new.
If you try to hold on to past relationships, you end up living a suspended life.  Job 7:6 describes it clearly: “My days . . . are spent without hope.” To be in a place of suspension …

Key 5: Progressively End Unhealthy Relationships | 9 Keys to Healthy Relationships

So what do you do with these unhealthy relationships? You end them progressively.  Progressively. In other words, don’t ever burn a bridge unless it’s mandatory. When you dissolve a relationship, don’t do so in anger or bitterness.
There is a right way and a wrong way to end a relationship.  Paul and Barnabas show us the right way in Acts 15:36–41. In the midst of a mission trip, Paul and Barnabas reached in impasse over whether John Mark should come with them. The two men had ministered together for a long while, but “the contention became so sharp that they parted from one another” (v. 39). I’m sure the first thing they did was seek God through prayer. Whenever you’re going to end a relationship, you need to do it through prayer. And although they wanted the best for each other, the conclusion was that the best decision was to separate and both groups would continue to preach the Gospel.
Was that the right way to end the relationship?  We do know that later in the Book of Acts they…

Key 4: Develop A Budget For Each Level Of Your Relationship | Nine Keys to Healthy Relationships

The fourth thing you have to do is develop a budget for each level of your relationships.  Every relationship works better for both people when there are dimensions of the relationship that are established from the beginning. In other words, you have to know what the expectations are. How much are you pouring in, and what do you expect to receive from them? Determine how far you are willing to go and how much you are willing to invest in that relationship. And to do that, you better get to know somebody very well before you enter into a covenant relationship.

Before you get committed in a covenant relationship, whether that’s a marriage, a business, or a friendship, you better get to know that person, and getting to know that person sometimes takes time. Anybody can falsely market themselves for a season, and people do it all the time. They sell themselves as beautiful, quiet, meek, and laid back. Then two years into the marriage they have an “in your face” attitude.

Remember that God…

Key 3: Don't Fear Criticism | Nine Keys to Healthy Relationships

So what happens when we start to deal with these unhealthy relationships that don’t bring us into the purpose God has for us?  When you begin to grow and mature and get away from the unhealthy relationships, you better become comfortable with criticism. Why? Because not everybody is going to be happy about your decision. You cannot please all people all the time. And people are going to make fun of you.

To break away from unhealthy relationships, you need to be comfortable in your own skin and confident enough to know who you are and the God whom you serve. Some people are going to look you in the eye and say, “Oh, so you think you’re better than us now? You’re Miss Righteous, aren’t you.” There are people who are going to try to pull you back. The loss of whatever you’ve been giving these people is going to make them upset.

When you begin to walk away from unhealthy relationships, people who have controlled you, manipulated you, used you, abused you, and know how to pull all the str…

Key 2: Don't Try To Be Someone Else's God | Nine Keys to Healthy Relationships

There’s a huge difference between helping a person and carrying a person.  You aren’t the Holy Spirit. Don’t enter into an enabling relationship in which you come to feel totally responsible for a person’s success or failure.

“Not me,” you say? You’d never try to play the part of the Holy Spirit in someone else life, right? You better look at your relationships a little bit closer and not assume that is the case. As long as we’re trying to change someone, we’re trying to be their God. It’s so easy when we need to be needed to get in the way of God doing what He wants to do. And so you have to get out of the way for God to do the work He wants to do.

In fact, the truest form of the word submission means this. If you’re a wife, you may have just broke out in hives when I mentioned the word. If you’re a husband, you probably said, “Yes, preach on it!” So much emotion over that one biblical sentence from the apostle Paul: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:…

Key 1: Identify and Accept the Reality of Your Relationships | Nine Keys to Healthy Relationships

How would describe the health of your relationships?  Be honest, because it’s crucial for your life. Friend, you cannot conquer what you don’t confront, and you cannot confront what you don’t identify. Many people live in denial or repression. They continually say, “Everything is okay. It’s okay. We get along wonderful.” But it’s not okay.

Many of us in the church are master hypocrites—the ones who wear the theatrical masks and say, “Praise the Lord! God bless you!” and pretend to love one another. We fight like cats and dogs driving to church, then slip into our prayer robes and act as though we’re going to get power from God. We’re not going to get power from God by slipping into something we don’t wear all the time, because God is never fooled.

God is saying, “Listen up. Stop being hypocritical, and let’s deal with it.” To relinquish the unhealthy, you have to admit to yourself when something is not functioning. If you are presently involved in relationships that prey on your hear…

God is a God of Restoration

“…I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, The crawling locust, The consuming locust, And the chewing locust, My great army which I sent among you. You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied, And praise the name of the Lord your God, Who has dealt wondrously with you; And My people shall never be put to shame. Then you shall know that I am in the midst of Israel: I am the Lord your God And there is no other. My people shall never be put to shame.” Joel 2:25-27
God is a God of restoration.  The heart of what He does, from salvation to justification, is restoration. Before time began, we were in Christ and were foreknown by Him. When the first Adam came into being, God already had in mind a second Man, His own Son, who would come in glory and restore the damage and the magnitude of everything lost by the first man. The joy of His salvation far exceeds the horror of our fall!  God authored our destiny.  God works all things, even the free will decisions of humank…